>This is the message which we have heard from Him and declare to you, that God is light and in Him is no darkness at all. If we say that we have fellowship with Him, and walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth. But if we walk in the light as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus Christ His Son cleanses us from all sin.
If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us.
I John 1:5-10
Father there is no hiding the truth from You. I have sinned many times in my life. I even sinned today. You saw me sin. You heard me sin. You knew I was going to do it. I knew You would know, but I did it anyway. Father forgive me. In my moments of weakness I listen to the "liar" who says, "no one will know. Do it this one time." But I forget that You and Your son always know. Instead of turning to the light for strength, I hide my face in shame in the darkness. Cleanse me Father. Turn my heart towards You when I am seduced by the"liar" to do wrong. Turn my eyes to focus on You and where I'm supposed to be, when my attention is caught by something or someone unrighteous.
Father also please forgive me for deceiving your children I claim to love. When I say one thing yet do another, let me see the err of my ways immediately that I may correct my missteps. Help me to be open, honest, and sincere in my dealings with all people. Steer me away from playing games with people's hearts and lives. Humble me Father. In Your Kingdom there is no room for my selfish lifestyle and behavior. I want to live righteously Father. In Your son's name I pray. Amen.
It is amazing how God works. After a lengthy conversation earlier today with two dear friends about marriage, the game-playing in relationships, and some of the basic principles of healthy relationships being, love, sacrifice, trust, honesty, transparency, and devotion, among other things- I left to run errands for a couple of hours. While I was driving I had a lot on my mind, and my heart grew heavy. My two friends shared some great stories of love, overcoming temptation, and how they built a healthy relationship with God as their foundation. They knew soon after meeting their spouses that they were meant to marry them, and love them for life. I reflected on what my friends had to say and their advice. I began to pray. I prayed for a healthy relationship, a marriage, with a man that would stand the test of time, resist temptations of the world and the "liar", and meet God's requirements for a union. I prayed that God would provide my relationship with all of the tools and weapons to fight off anything and anyone who would attempt to interfere.
Before I got home I received a disturbing dose of the harsh realities of living in and of the 'world' by a close friend who is in a great deal of pain over a person they love deeply, and who they thought felt the same way about them. God doesn't intentionally hurt us. The truth in the light may reveal some things that hurt us because we were blindly walking in darkness- and seeing reality for the first time feels more like a dream state…like a nightmare. Without sharing all of this friend's sad story, I will share the root of their issues and reconnect it to today's scripture.
This friend has been feeling weary about their loved one for several weeks now. They have been prayerful, and asking God to reveal the truth about this other person, their honest intentions, and whether this relationship was for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Gradually 'bread crumbs' of truth have lined a path that is revealing a reality far from the dream land my friend has been living in for almost a year.
Notes, cards, and other correspondence from so-called "friends" have surfaced; phone calls that have sounded strained and awkward (and at awkward times of the day and night), and other irregular behavior has sent up 'red flags' that my friend has naively been labeling as jealousy and insecurity on their part. They have been in denial. So-called "friends" are turning out to be much more, and this relationship that seemed to have been built on truth, love, and respect, may slide from under their feet because it is actually built on lies, deceit, selfishness, and fear. Simply put, sin is eating away at their relationship.
My friend is asking God what they did to deserve this; why they had to be subjected to this pain and embarrassment.
We always deserve the truth. We always deserve to have God point us in the right direction, and let us know when we're going in the wrong direction; and when the wrong people are in our lives to lead us astray. It is the light within us that makes another person led by the "liar" to deceive, manipulate, and hurt us, in hopes of drowning out that light with darkness. The "liar" has one goal, and that is to keep you from the truth, to keep you in the dark- oblivious, ignorant, and lonely even when you're not alone.
You can't control what someone else does, says, or thinks. But you can walk away from their darkness, and step into God's light. You have choices in life. You can freely sin and walk in darkness, content with being misled- as long as it makes you feel complete having someone by you that falsely claims to love you. Or you can walk upright, with your head and heart in the right direction- pointing towards God and His son.
We pray for the truth. We pray for enlightenment. God always delivers. We may not like what is revealed, but it is better to walk in the light of truth than in the deception of darkness.
I pray for my friend and their significant other. I pray that if the significant other does not see the err of their ways, acknowledges and repents for the lies, game playing, and other sins- and asks God for forgiveness- then they should do my friend a favor and simply walk away. No one wants to invest in a relationship (by any name or label) just to find out that the other person isn't fully committed.
We barely have enough hours in our day. Time devoted to God, self, family (significant other included), and career must also be balanced with time for real friends, and our work in the community. How in the world can a person conceivably find a way to fit in one or more so-called "friends" who clearly aren't on God's VIP list in your life? The time and energy you waste on a 'secret love' or pretend 'friend' is the time and energy you could be investing in your significant other; and together you could be working towards building God's Kingdom as Jesus instructed.
To my friend, I love you. I pray that God cleanses and restores you. I pray that this experience doesn't taint your view on love and relationships. I pray that if your relationship is restored righteously, that it be protected from future attacks. I also pray that if instead, your significant other continues to live a life of lies, continues to sneak behind you having relationships on the side and calling them by any other name but what they are, that God removes that person from your life, so that He can replace them with a person who is deserving of your love.
I wish this for all of you. If you aren't being loved with the intensity, quality, and quantity of love that God intends, then may God bring the right person to you at the right time. Please don't commit a sin in a knee-jerk reaction to something someone else did or didn't do to (or for) you. Let God handle those battles for you.
If you are the person not giving 100% of your love, devotion and respect to the person you claim to love, then turn to God for a healing cleanse. Don't let the handful of attractive qualities that someone else possesses turn your head and heart away from God, and His child He placed in your life (and you chose) to love and honor. Don't let the "liar" keep you from receiving all of the blessings you deserve. Repent and be cleansed!
Have a blessed evening and be a blessing to others. Walk in the light!
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