Scripture “Therefore, whatever you want others to do for you, do also the same for them — this is the Law and the Prophets.”
Father please continue to lovingly remind me that people are a mirror of the things inside me that I like, dislike, fear, or embrace. Remind me to not ask of others what I wouldn’t do for them. Remind me to walk the walk, not just talk the talk—being and not just reciting, living and not just wishing, praying and not worrying. I pray for these loving reminders in Jesus’ name. Amen.
In life we have givers and takers, and plainly put, in our relationship with God we’re all basically takers, because we don’t even scratch the surface in our giving to Him or in His name. But back to my original point…
In our human interactions, we have some takers who think that they are givers, because they measure what they have done for others—but they fail to look closely at the countless times they have reminded people of what they did for them, or they have a sense of expectation that in their giving they are to receive something in return. That my brothers and sisters is not giving, that is the act of conducting business. It is transactional through and through.
If you don’t like people expecting things of you, don’t do the same in return. If you don’t like people reminding you what they did for you, don’t waste your time reminding people what you did for them. If you don’t like giving handouts, stop walking around with yours extended in anticipation of receiving.
If you ever want to see my eyes twitch, watch me when I hear someone say to me or anyone for that matter, “I did ____for you” or “I gave you ___” and in their statements they force in their expectation of gratitude or compensation by their standards.
I shriek when people give with expectations of receiving something more than a “thank you” in return, and even that should not be one’s motivation or expectation when giving. It would be nice to know that someone is thankful, but it should not be our requirement. Besides, I’ve given to people who have said their thanks, but their actions were anything but appreciative, so words don’t always carry much value. I’ve learned to just give because that is what I would want someone to do for me. Everyone but God disappoints.
It’s nice to be repaid for money you gave to someone, or contributed on their behalf, but unless a stated loan, we really shouldn’t expect the money to be repaid. We should see it as a gift and hope that the person will one day pay it forward, and gift to someone else as you did for them. Additionally, in your giving, silence your mouth from it’s desperate need to receive credit for the giving. You did it. Get over yourself.
What if Jesus reminded us daily what he did and sacrificed for us? What if God reminded us of all that He’s invested in us, yet keeps coming up short on his return? What if Moses just lost it and cursed the children of Israel for their whining and complaining, and he just stomped off and headed to the promised land on his own? Oh there are so many “what ifs” that we can consider, and maybe that’s what we need to do every time we expect something of others that we wouldn’t do in return.
Liars and cheaters, which let me clear–cheaters are liars–they have a not-so-funny rule that only applies to everyone else but them. They can lie to you, deceive you, keep secrets, disrespect you, and do whatever they want when they want—but how dare you turn the tables on them. It’s hilarious to see more than one cheater/liar in a room or relationship together. They don’t trust each other, yet they want us to trust them. I guess there’s only room for one of them in any exchange.
They really need to ingest this scripture and make it a part of their life.
Now let me wrap up this already too long reflection with these last two statements…
Leaders should never ask their followers to do what they haven’t and won’t also do. Lead by example. Trust is gained by walking the walk consistently.
Parents who are untidy, messy, or complete slobs, shouldn’t demand cleanliness of their children. They follow your lead. So your actions and words will be repeated by your offspring.
Don’t expect of others what you won’t do for them. Period.
Thanks to my mom for sharing today’s scripture and expecting nothing in return. I love you mom!
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