A hot-tempered person must pay the penalty; rescue them, and you will have to do it again.
Once you have positioned yourself to be recognized and self-proclaimed as a person with an uncontrollable temper, you find yourself in situations that lead to negative consequences. We must learn to control our emotions, to control our anger and outbursts, to control our tendency to say and do mean things to others.
Self-control requires strength and love; it requires a passion for life and for something greater than what we see before us today. It says that, “I am greater than my emotions”. In turn, when hurt or disappointed, we have to choose whether to explode emotionally, verbally, or physically, or take control of ourselves and look for more positive ways to express what we are feeling and thinking.
Yes, there are times when your spouse, significant other, children, pets, neighbors, family, friends, co-workers, employees, or the random man on the street will work your absolute last ‘nerve’, but our reaction to them shows more about our true selves, our inner self, and our heart, than anything else.
What you do and say will create a domino effect that will impact a great number of people, possibly hundreds, in one single day.
We also cannot be responsible for a hot-headed person who is quick to anger. If we always make excuses for their behavior, always let them get away with being mean and disrespectful, they will never change for the better—but only see their behavior as acceptable. You will then create an endless and vicious cycle of ugliness. Your desire to try to control a situation will reveal your lack of control. Stop rationalizing poor behavior. You’re lying to God, yourself, and everyone else.
We must work towards ridding ourselves of darkness and staying away from people who are not mature enough to keep their emotions in check. No one should live in fear or under stress caused by others. If they can’t behave then keep your distance. Let them know that their behavior is intolerable and you choose to only entertain peace not chaos. Don’t back down from this stance or they will mentally or verbally clobber you. You must stand strong and resist the urge to enable their bad behavior. That’s the enemy at play there.
Lastly, before ‘going off’ as many of us call it, let’s work at walking away and calming down, and then reassessing the situation after we have calmed down. I know that there have been countless times when I’ve gone off and yelled, screamed, and cursed at someone—then later I regretted not having self control. I realized how I took the bait and made a fool of myself for the enemy’s delight. My lack of self-control feeds the enemy’s desire for chaos, and reflects the opposite of God’s steadiness. We can do better.
Calm me Father. Comfort me in time of pain and anger so that I may control my emotions and actions. Touch my heart Lord so that I find the patience to endure, overlook, or lovingly address the most unbearable of instances and people. Fill me with hope that things will get better sooner, through either walking away or a changing of hearts.
Show me how to control my mind and tongue Father. Show me how to simmer my temper, so as not to be an eyesore in Your Kingdom. Let me learn from Your son Jesus how to walk upright and never get taken aback so far that I lose my composure and dignity. In his name and Yours I pray. Amen.
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