Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
If you call yourself a Christian, if you are a student and practitioner of Christ, and if you hope to receive God’s blessings and forgiveness then you need to remember that life is never about you—it’s about our heavenly Father and our realignment with Him. We’re off course, not the other way around.
Do you think His son Jesus spent his days and nights complaining and stewing over what someone did or didn’t do to and for him?
Do you think he went around telling everyone what someone said about him? Did he go off on those disciples that rejected him? Did he curse and attack those around him? No, he prayed for them and accepted the fact that his experience in life had nothing to do with them or him, but everything to do with our Father.
We have become a society of victims and this has to be displeasing to God since our focus is on ourselves and not on Him. We are supposed to be tools, ambassadors, students, and soldiers in God’s army—His army not ours—His Kingdom not ours! We need to stop being concerned about “me” and “I” and more concerned with God and how we can be aligned with Him. We need to be reflecting His love outwardly and embracing it from others, instead of wasting time dictating who is worthy of love and how it should be received.
If you find yourself seemingly repeating steps in your life, and having the same experiences it is because you have not learned the lesson God is trying to teach you. You are closed off to Him and until you release, let go, and live the life He has intended then you will stay on the merry-go-round of life.
Stop complaining and whining about what someone did to you. Do you believe that God is your vindicator? Do you believe that He always balances things in the right? Then why are you harboring resentment, carrying around the baggage of junk that God said He’s handled? Do you believe Him or your eyes? Do you believe Him or that voice inside that keeps consuming your time with drama and negativity?
You testify to His glory but then live as though He keeps letting you down. Which is it? We say He has us but we live as though we can’t trust Him to keep His promise. Is He untrustworthy or are we not trusting? And if we don’t trust then we need to look within our hearts. There we will see our own untrustworthiness. We can’t be trusted to be faithful, committed, patient, obedient, and disciplined. We don’t realize how much we project onto others our deficiencies and insecurities. We don’t realize how we project outward and upward to God, as self-entitled, expecting the most for very little. We won’t commit the mustard seed to the ground but we want the acres to Divinely manifest.
Do you truly know Him or are you still living like a bystander who can’t yet comprehend what you witnessed?
We have choices in this life and we can waste away, withering into a bag of sullen bones, consumed by all of the things that didn’t go our way, all of the pain we won’t resolve by letting go. Or we can choose to instead live our life without blame, shame, and contempt in our heart, as Christ led and instructed. We want forgiveness yet we can’t forgive ourselves and others. We want mercy and grace but then feel self-important enough to dictate who’s allowed mercy and grace.
We struggle to forgive others because we struggle to forgive ourselves. They’re not worthy because we don’t see ourselves as worthy. How can we have the audacity to ask God to forgive us if we can’t forgive ourselves and others? We want from Him what we aren’t willing to do. So we carry the junk around, rehashing it, stewing in it, letting it dictate our every move, and giving it power to determine how we live and for how long.
We refuse to let go of the harm someone else caused us. They occupy a space in our minds for free because, honestly, misery loves company.
It’s taken me 10 years to finally embrace this understanding of #forgiveness and why my letting go and not needing anything in return is what freedom and well-being rests upon.
Don’t let the self-appointed title of Christian cause you to be ignorant enough to believe that you have the right to dictate to others about their own lives. You only have the right to choose who to associate with or not, how and where to invest your time, and how to have your relationship with God.
Life is about your journey, not controlling other people’s experiences.
Knowing the teachings of Jesus and the testimonies of those he helped, ministered, and redirected—be honest with yourself, are you a Sadducee, Pharisee, Disciple, or one of the people in the crowd just waiting to see what’s what?
The person who is blameless and free from sin please cast the first stone!
Father, as I ask You to forgive me for all of my wrongdoings I stop and pray for the freedom and internal peace to forgive myself for choosing me over You. I pray to forgive other people who have hurt and wronged me, whether knowingly or unknowingly. If in case I have not truly forgiven all who have hurt me, please warm my heart so that I can freely forgive them now. I know that I can’t ask and expect Your forgiveness if I can’t forgive others. You are not the author of chaos and confusion. You are not a hypocrite and I shouldn’t live my life as one.
My grudges, my animosity, my anger, my aggressiveness, my bitterness, and my self-victimization only block my blessings from You. Forgive me Father for not letting go of my issues with others. Forgive me for dwelling on the past. Forgive me Father for not reflecting You fully and expressing Your love regardless of how others treat me. Help me to see myself and love myself as You love me. Help me to see and accept others as You do. In Your Name I pray. Amen.
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